What you deserve and what someone can give are not the same thing…

What you deserve and what someone can give are not the same thing… We often get caught in a cycle of blame and victimization when someone is not able to give us what we deserve or need, or support us, or care for us. Arguing, berating, blaming, condemning, convincing, manipulating, and shaming doesn’t change anything, especially a person. If someone isn’t capable, they never will be, no matter how much energy you expend trying to get them to be. Instead, you need to honor what you deserve, and invest that energy in you. Even if the situation can’t change, like a divorce, at least you have moved to acceptance and stop wasting valuable energy in a futile situation.