As part of a family tradition, I was asked what the best part of 2020 was… and despite that no one believed my answer, it was having my children home, everyday, with me. Why?
My oldest turns fourteen on New Year’s Day. The reality hit hard that in four years she will be transitioning to adulthood, going to college, (and if it were up to her) traveling around the world. Knowing my time is shrinking with my children sleeping soundly in their beds nearby, will pass faster than I can take a breath. I still can’t believe fourteen years have already passed. It feels like yesterday I looked into her enchanted eyes for the first time...
With bigger kids comes bigger problems. I know drinking and drugs will be coming closer, as teenagers experiment, and in two and a half years she will be driving, suffer heartache from lost relationships, and more. Is it selfish of me to want to hold on and protect all of them as long as I can?
Yes, I know they lost so much more than time in 2020; social development, memories with friends, playing sports, parties, dances, and more… But it has only been twelve months, and this will pass. So, I will gladly steal this time as the best part of 2020, and savor every moment they were in the walls of my home, warm and safe…
Remote learning was certainly a new challenge and not always the easiest trying to work with three people walking in on phone calls and zooms. But, the good news was, everyone on the other end was suffering the same fate, so no one really cared. It actually became a norm to hear children crying or playing in the background, to visit other people’s homes through video, as if we always had.
For the first time in history, we were all experiencing the same thing at the same time, around the world.
Did we handle it all the same way? No. Did some of us do it better than others? Yes. Did some realize the relationships they were in were the wrong ones? Yes. But, some also became closer, and realized it was the right one.
The grass can always be greener on the other side, but sometimes when you have grass to stand on when someone else doesn’t, you start to appreciate it at a whole new level.
2020 was full of changes that none of us expected. We traveled a broad spectrum of emotion… Fear of losing loved ones probably at the top of that list. The ups and downs, the fear, the hope, the desperation, the questions, the answers, the confusion, the deeper connection to family.
2020 will be remembered as a point in history that dramatically changed our lives and shaped the future.
2020 made us more aware of how connected we all are, and how disconnected we all were.
2020 made us love deeper and harder, and also let go of things we thought used to matter.
And, If you are reading this, you made it.
Happy New Year... to a healthy and prosperous 2021...